Tanya's Story

I got this e-mail last week from a female admirer of the blog. I love her honesty. Please comment and let Tanya know what you think!

A friend of mine pointed me to your website and said I should share my experience. She loves MMA and boxing. I am not sure if I fit in with the other women who have posted stories. I do not have that 20 something body anymore, but I do have evidence that men do find ‘real women’ in their forties still attractive. So, here is my story.

My husband and I are in our early 40s. I would normally walk out of the room if he put on boxing and I never went out of my way to watch a fight at school, but now I find myself drawn in to the idea of men fighting – especially for me. We are both a bit out of shape. About a year ago, my husband, I’ll call him John, had decided to try and get in better shape, so he joined a boxing gym. He liked the workouts and found out that he even enjoyed sparring. Even so, I was really surprised when he told me he was going to have a ‘real’ fight. His gym had organized a match with another gym and he had signed up for a fight. Most of the guys went for a normal amateur match, but John said this was likely the only ‘real fight’ he would ever have so he signed up for pro-style match if they could find someone else roughly his age and experience willing to do the same. I told him he was crazy. He was really excited the next week when he told me they had someone for him to fight. He asked me to come and watch. I told him I really did not want to, but he said I had to.

The Friday night of the fight I took a seat on the aisle on the path John would take to get into the ring. He asked that I wear something sexy that showed some cleavage to inspire him and I did although I was a bit self conscious about dressing like that in a crowd of mostly men.

When I got the program for the fight was the first time I saw the names of the fighters. I was surprised to see that John was on to fight a person named 'Greg'. This Greg had the same last name as the Greg I dated years ago before John. Greg and I had been dating for a while, but I began to realize that it just was not going anywhere. I liked Greg and we had a lot of fun, but whenever I brought up the thought of the long term he backed off. I met John and really hit it off and John was not afraid of committing to a long term relationship.

Sex with Greg was great, but I wanted a future so I broke up with Greg. Greg always felt that I had ‘dumped him’ for this other guy, but I told him it was mostly that I wanted commitment. Greg knew the other guy was named was John but they had never met. John was always a bit jealous that I had had a long term physical relationship before him and he knew the first name but nothing else. Looking at the program I still did not know for sure that it was THE Greg as he has a pretty common last name.

They were 6th match of the night. I was so nervous during the first 5 matches I really do not remember them much other than that they wore head gear and shirts like a normal amateur match and only fought 3 rounds – I thought that was a good idea. Greg came out first and that was when I knew for sure it was him. He saw me. He clearly noticed that I was showing my cleavage. He asked what I was doing there as he walked by. I told him I was there to watch my husband fight – Greg knew immediately it was THE John. John came down about 10 steps behind Greg so he saw my exchange with Greg. As he came by he asked if I knew that guy and I said, “Well, you always wanted to meet my old boyfriend Greg, now is your chance!” Needless to say John was pretty surprised.

They had signed up for 6 rounds and were bare chested and had no head gear. They came out for the first round and I held my breath. There was obvious tension, but they were both very new to the idea of a real fight and were not sure what to do. I wonder if the surprise of their ‘relationship’ was also a factor. As it was, all they did was sort of dance around. They were both so nervous they barely touched gloves. The crowd started to get restless and even boo toward the end of the first round. It was kind of embarrassing to be associated with either of them –but mostly I was relieved nothing bad was likely to happen.

I must admit though that I was not happy when I saw them both eying the ring card girl walking around in her skimpy outfit showing off her 20 year old body. I know I had no right to be jealous of Greg looking at someone else, but still it bothered me. John had decided to go without sex for the last few weeks because he wanted to ‘be aggressive’ for the fight. I was beginning to think it was only so he could enjoy the girl carrying the number around the ring.

The second round started and they were both just dancing around again. A guy near me yelled out ‘Come on and fight! ’. I am not sure what came over me, but before I knew it I yelled out ‘You came here to fight – FIGHT’. I was immediately sorry I had done it. I have a big mouth and at that moment the crowd was relatively quiet. They both turned their heads toward me, so I am sure they heard me and knew who had yelled at them. The reality is I did not want to see either of them hurt. The only reason I left Greg was because he would not commit and John was my husband.

After that, they did both pick up the action. They were both throwing lots of punches and the crowd got into it.  I was happy to see that mostly they were hitting each other in the belly. I know it must not have felt good getting hit in the stomach and I could tell there were a couple of times when they both got hurt, but I was not worried about either of them going to the hospital with a concussion. The 3 ^rd round the action kept up. They both started throwing a few punches to the other’s head and I noticed at the end of the round that John had a bit of a bloody nose and Greg had a bruise over his eye. Neither of them spared a glance at the bikini clad ring card girl after that round… The 4 ^th round they were both getting tired, but they were both still trying as hard as they could. Then it happened….. Greg caught John with a solid shot to the head - I don’t remember right or left - and John went down on all fours. It was the first really hard head shot either of them landed, so I am not sure how much John was hurt or just surprised.

I thought for sure he would just stay down, but he amazed me and got up pretty quick. The ref asked if he was OK and said he wanted to go on. Greg came in with a wild shot that John ducked and pulled Greg into a clinch. John did his best to hold on to the clinch as long as he could. I thought it was ironic that they had both held my naked chest against theirs’ in the past, but now they were holding each other - in very different circumstances. The ref pulled them apart just as the bell sounded.

I really hoped that John would just call it quits, but he came out for round 5. Greg came after him, but John had obviously been coached between rounds and threw his left hand out hard and straight and caught Greg in the face. That hurt Greg and he backed off a bit. They both kept going at it, but the clinches were as long as they could make them.

Round 6 and they were both trying hard again. They were both so tired that compared to real boxers it looked like slow motion, but I knew they were both giving it their all – I wondered if it was trying to impress me or just survive? The action was mostly a blur as I could not really follow what was going on, but eventually John threw a punch that caught Greg and sent him all the way down to the canvas. He was getting up and made it for the count of 8 to tell the ref he wanted to go on, but he looked really bad. Just as he and John were coming together the bell rang and the fight was over. They called it a draw which was fine with me. If the 4 ^th round had been longer Greg might well have probably won. If the 6 ^th round had been longer John almost for sure would have won. For me it was perfect, they could both feel good about themselves AND they were both ok AND it was over. John walked back to the dressing room first and I hugged him and told him he was great and I was proud of him. Greg came by a minute later, and I glanced to make sure John was out of sight and patted Greg on the shoulder and told him I thought he had done well.

Sex that night with John was great. I got to wipe some dried blood off his nose and tell him how great he looked out there and how he was unlucky the last round was not longer and how brave he was in the 4 ^th round. His only regret was that he did not have the chance to finish Greg off.

I did not tell John, but Greg called me Monday and asked if we could have lunch just to catch up. We met on Tuesday and he still had a little bit of a black eye. I told him he looked good with a black eye and that he was very brave to get up in the last round.

Greg surprised me by saying that he missed me. I told him we would still be together if he had been willing to commit. He said that he regretted that now. When we said goodbye I went to kiss him on the cheek, but he grabbed me and kissed me on the mouth. Truth be told - I kissed him back a little. He told me he wanted to fight John again, this time until a knock out with the winner getting me. I just smiled and said goodbye.

John and I had sex that night, but I must admit that I thought of Greg a few times.

Now even John is talking about a longer rematch so that there could be a clear winner.

I don’t know for sure what John would do if I said they should fight with me as the prize. It would be a bit unfair. If they are going to fight anyway then for Greg there is nothing to lose. If he wins he gets me, if he loses he still does not have me. John stands to lose his wife, Greg loses nothing.

Should I encourage this or let it go? I cannot stop them from fighting again if that is what they both want. I cannot stop Greg from challenging John to fight form me. But to let them fight for me? I know the right answer is no. If they fight I should stick with John no matter what. I have a good thing with John and there is no guarantee that Greg would really commit this time. However, I have feelings for them both and could have easily stayed with Greg if things had been different.

In my fantasy I get to be the ring card girl and taunt them both as I walk by between rounds like in the ‘Fight Night’ story on your blog. In my head I think this is stupid because I do have a commitment to John.  Plus, I know the crowd would not react well to a 40 something overweight ring card girl. I guess we could do a ‘them and me only’ match, then I would not have to worry about the crowd, but part of me enjoyed watching them fight with a real crowd around and me just in the background…

Also, there is a real chance that if they go for a longer fight one of them will end up in the hospital, or worse.

I feel very naughty for even thing about it….but on some level it is very exciting.

Given the nature of your blog I think I know what most of the readers would say, but still I am curious….